This Italian Woman is Living Every Brown Girl’s Dream

September 29, 2017 Nila Choudhury     KissMeImNila

Fitness instructor and vlogger, Laura Mesi just had a beautiful wedding with a white dress, three tier cake and 70 guests which cost her £8,750. Who did she marry? Herself!

 

This girl is living the dream of every 20-something brown girl being hounded by a matchmaking auntie. Mesi apparently got the idea to marry herself after a 12-year relationship ended.

“I told my relatives and friends that if I had not found my soul mate, I would marry myself by my 40th birthday,” Mesi told La Repubblica. “If tomorrow I find a man to build a future with, I will be happy, but my happiness will not depend on him.”

Her family has been supportive of her decision, and though her brother was skeptical at first, he came around and even performed the rites. Mesi may be the first woman in the country to marry herself. However, Nello Ruggiero was the first groom to marry himself with a ceremony in Naples.

The pressure of marriage and finding ‘the one’ is just too frustrating these days. Mesi and Ruggiero aren’t the only ones. British blogger Sophia Tanner was also the first woman in the U.K. to marry herself. Though none of these weddings are legal, it is still important to these individuals.

“It was an important ceremony that demonstrates my commitment to self-compassion,” Tanner told BBC. “I’ve never been that girly girl dreaming of my big day. But, as I started to find myself again following my break-up, I thought, what could be more romantic than to show myself, and everyone else, that I deserve this, the ultimate day? I don’t need to put up with bad men, or to be constantly chasing ‘The One’. Perhaps I am ‘My One.’”

Who needs a man/women, right? Be your own ‘one’ and show yourself some compassion.

 

TAGS: italian women, marry yourself, self marriage, spouse

Nila Choudhury

New York born and raised, Nila Choudhury (aka the encyclopedia of useless Bollywood knowledge) is avoiding rishta aunties by obtaining her doctoral degree in clinical psychology.

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